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We’re separate enough: Let’s focus on 6 degrees of connectedness

In the mid 90’s a very fun “parlor trick” came about called “6 degrees of Kevin Bacon”. The idea was that every actor in Hollywood could be connected to Kevin within 6 people. Its fascinating how accurate this is and how it proves out the science of networks.

An equally popular use of the phrase is “6 degrees of separation”. Like the Kevin Bacon scenario, this idea suggests that everyone on the planet is connected via those 6 degrees.

My problem with that is the word “separation”. Aren’t we as humans separate enough? I mean, we go so far out of our way to celebrate our differences. Which is especially perculiar considering how similar we are both genetically and from an energy perspective. Newsflash, we are all part of the same.

In an attempt to change the energy around the 6 degrees, I use the word “connectedness” in lieu of “separation”. I understand that mathematically it is the inverse, but from a message perspective, it brings us closer as we should be.

I have also contemplated the 6 things to which we should be most connected. In no particular order they are:

The planet
Our bliss
The Universe

Want to know more about how being connected to these areas benefit us, check out my talk at TEDxdetroit on 10/21

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Why I choose THESE 6 degrees…

There are lots of things to which we are or should feel connected throughout our lives. I chose these six:


Because I believe they are all encompassing categories. By having an awareness of your level of connectedness to each, you will be able to enjoy greater satisfaction.

Here is why each of the six made the list:

Self- if you don’t know who you are, you wont be able live up to your full potential. Self knowledge originates from self connectedness. Take the time to get to know you. I am hopeful that many people will share their experience about how they connect with their own self.

Others- having meaningful connections to others is one of the core tenements of our existence. Life without the involvement of friends, family and all people in general lacks meaning. The discussions on connecting with others will be my most favorite. I am really looking forward to the conversations here.

Technology- While a solid argument can be presented that technology really helps us be connected to one another, technology can help us be connected to so much more. As this series grows I will talk about how we use and which technologies really help us.

Planet- Lakes, Oceans, Trees, Forests, Beaches Deserts and we haven’t even talked about animals yet. So many things on this lovely planet of ours that help us all feel grounded (nice pun, Terry). I am looking forward to learning where and with what on our big blue rock you feel most connected.

Universe- I think this section speaks for itself. If you are not connected to the universe, I have but one question, when will now be a good time to do so? This should be a most philosophical discussion and I can hardly wait to hear from you.

Joy- This is the reason we are here. I used this section to cover all of the things that bring us joy, like money, dancing, smiling faces and even Twitter. What brings you the most joy?

Sorry that it took this long to come out with part two. I promise the first note on “Connectedness to Self” will be here soon.

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Connectedness is the new Separation

For years people have been touting the idea of six degrees of separation. In an ironic twist, the concept actually demonstrates how close we are to every other person on the planet.

Since that is true, why do we use the word “separation”? Don’t we spend enough time creating imaginary differences? This line of thinking divides us. Based on what is going on in todays world, it seems to me that it would behoove us to focus on coming together (someone should really sing a song about that).

In the spirit of “being the change you want to see in the world” (thank you Gandhi for that most powerful and relevant thought) I propose we begin to use the phrase “six degrees of connectedness” to replace the current misguiding statement.

In addition to polishing up the ole phrase, i suggest that we take a look at the six most important things to which we can be connected. My thought is that the six should look a little like this:

1. Self
2. Others
3. Technology
4. Planet
5. Universe
6. Joy

I will be initiating conversations on how we are connected to each of those in the coming weeks.

To what are you most connected?